Abusive Relationship Counseling by Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo
Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT takes a non-directive way, aiming to help the persons in gaining a better understanding of themselves, by speaking openly and honestly in a session. During EFT one will be guided through three major phases, consisting of the following nine steps:
Identify the couples’ important issues
Identify how those issues are expressed in negative patterns of interaction.
Finding out the fears and negative emotions beneath the negative interaction patterns.
Reframe the concern as unmet attachment and emotional requirement.
Changing Interaction Patterns Phase
Identify each partner’s disowned attachment style and emotional requirements.
Teach couples to express acceptance and compassion for their respective partner’s attachment and emotional needs.
Teach couples to express their attachment and emotional requirements to restructure patterns of interaction and enhance bonding.
Consolidation and Integration Phase
Teach couples new methods to communicate regarding old issues, and form new solutions to them.
Teach couples how to use the skills gained in the therapy but also outside of the therapy room.