Ignoring a child’s emotional signs can weaken their emotional and psychological health – Warns Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo
Childhood is that time when you feel free, happy, and enjoy every moment, small or big to its fullest. Kids live carelessly and play wholeheartedly. It is considered to be the most beautiful time in a person’s whole life.
Meanwhile, during this time, children adapt to things they listen to, watch and grow up with the same experiences. Thus, it is essential that you as a parent provide a positive atmosphere for the kids. As your kids grow, they seem to understand things in a better manner and react accordingly says psychologist Shivani Sadhoo. Mostly, parents do not recognize or completely ignore the emotional wounds of childhood and push them under the rags. Childhood trauma usually ends up becoming the factor for several mental disorders in people. Try to look at whether your kid is suffering from any of the negative emotions given below and do parenting right.
India’s eminent psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo says if the signs given below are ignored, it could lead to some serious repercussions later on. So, better pay timely attention to your kids’ emotional and mental health.
Feelings of unacceptance
A child is often rejected from taking up a certain role in the family or with friends. Even when they live in a family with siblings, few children might feel less loved as parents are not able to fulfill their demands. It makes them feel disappointed and rejected. If it happens once, it’s okay, but if it happens repeatedly, it makes your child feel like they’re not worthy and kills their motivation.
Feelings of embarrassment
Some parents have a habit of criticizing their children in front of everyone. They mostly compare them with others and make them feel unworthy. However, continuous criticism makes them feel humiliated in front of others.
Fear of loneliness
During the early days, every kid needs their parents around them. When both parents are working or occupied with something in their lives, they may end up neglecting their children. The kids may feel lonely or even abandoned. If you are working, then make sure to compensate for the lost time when you get back home rather than prioritizing other things. At least one of the parents should be with the kids every day. A child feels abandoned when parents push their kids away and do not talk or mingle with them regularly.
Feeling betrayed
When parents do not keep their promises, kids often feel betrayed. Children are not able to apply logic; they simply take things close to their hearts. Therefore, as a parent, you must try to keep up with your kids and not make them feel like they are not your priority.
Not meted out justice to them
Certain parents might take the side of their kids, even while they are wrong, while others may never listen to their kids. Both the scenarios are wrong. A parent must always hear the side of their child and meted out justice accordingly.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.
