Within each of you, there are numerous powers and abilities that you underestimate, but which can carry you through several challenges. You are actually stronger than you think.
Shivani Sadhoo says it has been usually observed that most people impose their own limits. They restrict their output based on self-framed constraints of their abilities and strengths. Sometimes these boundaries are formed based on past experiences. Sometimes they are formed based on perceived capacities. Sometimes these limits are formed on nothing. And consequently, all those things make one believe they are not strong.
In this blog, eminent psychologist and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo talks about the inner superpowers that you possess, and how to know about them
You are resilient
There are some people who overcame seemingly insurmountable circumstances like the cult victims. The abused, bullied, and those having multiple personalities. They made extraordinary lives because they had humongous inner strength. They knew that their most difficult moments shape who they are. Life is not what happens when everything goes according to your wishes or your way. A fulfilling life is forged when you rise from the ashes of what you used to be.
You do not necessarily need to have a painful or traumatic past to find that sometimes life simply gets you down. If you find yourself trapped in negative thought patterns, alter your perspective. Think about everything you have to be grateful for. Learn lessons from your failures so that you can reframe them in a positive manner. And never ever give up.
You are adaptable
Humans have outlived several other species. Humans have survived this long because they are adaptable physically and mentally. We are able to live in nearly every climatic condition on earth. We have made transformative discoveries that broaden lifespans, thwart diseases and feed billions of people every day. Humans are unique in this way. No other life form present on the planet can adapt the way humans can.
Say yourself of this essential human trait as you navigate through choppy waters. Think back on a difficult time you faced in the past. How did you utilize your innate resourcefulness to rise to the challenge and face it? Perhaps you needed to learn a new skill or make an alteration to your daily routine. Perhaps you asked for help. You adapted, and you overcame, simply because you are stronger than you think.
You are in control
Your beliefs have the potential to create and the power to destroy. Humans have the awesome ability to take any experience of life and make a meaning that disempowers them or one that can save their lives. Stop seeing your life as a sequence of events that are beyond your control. Initiate taking ownership. Understand that everything in your life is an outcome of a decision you made – not your boss, parents, or your spouse.
It means you have the strength to take action and alter your entire world. What would you do to take firm control of your situation? Update your resume. Work on your business strategy. Develop an exercise routine. Practice mindfulness. Reconnect with your dear ones. Learn a skill that will assist you to reach your goals or picking up a new hobby simply for fun. Whatever you do, take decisive action. Rise to the hurdles and make a life that is empowering, not clouded with negativity. As you build your confidence, you will soon realize you are stronger actually, than you think.
You do not run away from your fears
Your fear is a natural instinct. If our ancestors were not afraid of lions, or other potential dangers we wouldn’t be here today. Several of you choose to ignore your fear. It makes you uncomfortable because it points out your flaws. It fills you with self-doubt. It even makes you physically tremble and sweat. You often do not have the tools to overcome those feelings, so you avoid them. But when you know that you are stronger than you think, you face your fears head-on.
You were taught that there are 3 reactions to fear: fight, flight, or freeze. But there is another word with F you were never taught: faith. And faith is much stronger than fear. People having mental strength call on faith over self-doubt. They know that they are here for a specific reason, and that reason is a lot greater than any issues they will face. They have complete faith that they can handle anything. They are made for adversity, and they will not let it stop them.
You know that your life is a journey
Your life is a journey, not a destination. For everything you do or see there is a season. This too shall pass. Your world is filled with sayings that all get to the same point: Life is bigger than you are. Setback failures are temporary. Both pain and pleasure are fleeting. The forces of love and hate are locked in a continuous battle. It is this polarity that lets you appreciate the good when you have it. To do this, you require to let go of your expectations. Trade your expectation for appreciation and the entire world around you changes instantly,
The universe is huge, perhaps never-ending. Life is quite short. Do you wish to spend it in a negative state, or will you opt to see joy and love? Will you empower yourself with the true knowledge that you are stronger than what you think? Will you embrace transformation – no matter what it brings – and let it drive you to form an extraordinary life?
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.
