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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\nYou actually never lose yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n You will learn that, even if you lose anything significant or everything else, you are required to do everything you can not to lose yourself. You may have lost everything, but you can\u2019t and will not lose yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is no bigger reality other than your inner reality<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n You learn the only essential thing is how you feel about what is happening. It is not what happens that hurts you, but how you interpret it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Everything you thought, you owned was merely an illusion<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n All the things that you thought you had (material things, such as money, and property) were an illusion and were unimportant. You realize now that the sole thing that matters in the world for you is people and their kindness. People you met gave you mental support, strength, and wisdom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You learn there is no permanent \u201cYou\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cYou<\/strong>\u201d are a process, a self-formed and self-sustaining method. Self-confidence and happiness are not a taken or given, but a habit. If you make self-esteem and happiness a habit, then, even if you lose out on everything as you did, you will know ways to return to that habit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Never lose hope<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Now you see your life before as a continuous rise to your peak, from which, because of the calamity, you had to jump, leaving everything, clutching your loved one\u2019s hands, and closing your eyes in horror. It has been a leap of faith.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In your case, you perhaps found out that life can give you a parachute, but that parachute will only appear if you are willing to jump. You jumped and were rescued by surprising strangers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hope is one of the scarce resources responsible for your peace in the present. So, never ever lose your hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hate mongering will only bring the never-ending cycle of demolition while kindness will provide a never-ending loop of love<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Perhaps, your cause of trauma was too treacherous a path to tread. And hating anyone will seem an obvious way out. Good and evil are quite important concepts, and you need to teach them to your younger ones too. Hatred only leads to more hatred and anger breeds more anger, which makes way for devastation and destruction. Kindness, on the other hand, breeds more kindness, which make a virtuous cycle of positive energy. You have to stay away from hatred and love yourself, love people, love nature, and love life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Strength is in acceptance<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Acceptance is certainly not a weakness, but a strength. You cannot alter the past and you need to accept what happens to you even if there are unpleasant memories. If you look for easier routes, you will be surprised. Everywhere you go, there will be difficulties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n