You may have heard the phrase “living life to the fullest”. But, is it actually that easier than saying? Many people actually fail to do so. If you are about to make more half-hearted, stale resolutions for 2023, it is urged that you consider something different this year.
Whatever has made its way onto your resolutions list—be it the nearly universal goal to quit smoking or something more original—there is an underlying motivation that everyone’s resolutions share: you all want to feel differently than you do today, says Shivani Sadhoo. Mostly, you interpret this longing to feel different as a message that you need to have more, do more, look better, and many more.
This year, what if the goal was not to change your life but to alter how you feel about and engage with the life you have already created? What if you could truly notice and sink into moments of joy and peace contrary of rushing ahead to your next task?
You can start to live more fully, meaningfully, joyfully, and intentionally right away. You don’t have to wait until you quit smoking, get a different job, get the right partner, etc. Eminent psychologist and marriage counselor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares 5 ways to love more fully this year.
It essentially entails seeing things as they are. It involves understanding the nature of things, free from ignorance and any bias. This is your endeavor to understand the natural laws of the world, including yourself, your habitual ways of being, and how they serve you. It means seeing clearly the reality of yourself and the world around you.
This principle refers to noticing and being intentional about the mental energy that drives your behaviors, like your cravings, jealousies, and hatreds. These emotional experiences are not repressed or rejected; rather, you simply accept the arising of these emotions without letting them generate behavior that is unwise or unkind. Also, you actively cultivate your commitment to ethical behavior and grab opportunities to improve yourself.
This principle refers to paying close attention to your words and avoiding lying and harmful speech. It also extends to self-critical internal speech, which is dangerous to your own self.
It has to do with behaving in manners that are non-harmful to self and others. It includes no killing, stealing, or sexual misdeed.
This principle is about being intentional and ethical in how you make a living. You do not make a living off of the suffering or harm of others. This principle is made to reduce harm to others and help you live with greater peace and less shame and guilt.
The above five points are perhaps incomplete without the motive of the right effort, right mindfulness, and right meditation.
When you think about the right effort it is about the fact that you must exert genuine effort in the proper amounts and directions in an effort to reap a better life.
While right mindfulness is about paying close attention to what is happening in the current scenario without any judgment or bias.
While meditation is your training arena for forming the capacity to stay mindful and see clearly the nature of your own mind.
Now you know what you need to do to start living your life fully. Come on, embrace these qualities and give your life a new dimension.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.