Everyone makes mistakes. It is the most human thing we do. But, when it comes to relationships, it’s important to be aware of the mistakes that can prevent you from achieving your goals. It’s important to remember that everyone is unique, so there’s no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to relationships. When it comes to wanting a guy to commit, there are certain pitfalls that women often find themselves in. Let’s find out more from India’s leading couples therapist and relationship counsellor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo in this article.
What are the common commitment mistakes?
Shivani Sadhoo explains in depth what all are those mistakes that are made when a woman wants her guy to commit. Those are:
1. Error in judgment
One common mistake women make when they want commitment from a guy is assuming he’s ready without discussing it. Example: Believing he’s committed because they spend a lot of time together when he might not share the same intentions. This assumption can lead to disappointment and misunderstandings. Communication is key to avoiding this mistake and ensuring both partners are on the same page.
2. Being Impatient
One common mistake is trying to push the guy into commitment too quickly. Love is a beautiful journey, and it’s important to allow it to develop naturally. Sometimes, the excitement of a new relationship can lead to the desire for exclusivity sooner than your partner might be ready for. For example, insisting on becoming “official” after just a few dates might scare him away. It’s important to allow a relationship to naturally progress and let commitment happen at its own pace. Remember, commitment is a step-by-step process, so enjoy each phase of the relationship as it comes.
3. Reading Between Lines
When women want a guy to commit, they often overthink things. They analyze every text and action, searching for hidden meanings. This can lead to unnecessary stress. They might imagine problems that don’t exist, like thinking he’s losing interest when he’s not. Overthinking can make them act differently, causing confusion. It’s important to communicate openly and avoid reading too much into every little detail to maintain a healthy relationship. Trust is a fundamental element of any committed relationship, and constantly doubting your partner’s intentions can harm the bond you’re trying to create.
4. Marriage is always on your mind
Another common mistake that women often make is to talk about marriage too soon or too often. Thinking of marriage as the ultimate goal of a relationship can create pressure and anxiety for both partners. Bringing up marriage early in a relationship can scare some men away. It’s important to let the relationship develop naturally and allow both partners to feel comfortable and ready for such a significant step. Constantly pressuring or discussing marriage can create unnecessary pressure and make the guy feel trapped or overwhelmed. Communication is key, but timing matters too. Marriage should be a natural progression, not a forced endpoint in a relationship.
5. Placing him on a pedestal
When women want a guy to commit, giving him too much importance can be a mistake. This means prioritizing him over everything else in life, which can make him feel overwhelmed and pressured. It’s essential to maintain a balance and not smother him with attention. They may also become overly clingy or possessive, not allowing him the space he needs to maintain his individuality and freedom. This can lead to feelings of suffocation and push him away instead of encouraging commitment. Everyone needs personal time and freedom. It’s vital to respect his need for independence to build a healthy, committed relationship.
In the quest for a committed relationship, it’s perfectly normal to make mistakes. Now that you know about a few common mistakes, you can increase your chances of building a strong and lasting connection with the person you love.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.