Have you ever wondered if love is more than just dreamy days and starry nights, coffee dates, and romantic vacations? While those elements can undoubtedly be part of a romantic relationship, true love involves a commitment to supporting each other through life’s ups and downs. However, what if you find yourself questioning your partner’s commitment? Eminent relationship expert and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo explains here in this blog.
What are the signs your boyfriend is in love with someone else?
Shivani says some of the tell-tale signs that indicate your boyfriend is falling for another woman include, he is:
1. Very Secretive
Your boyfriend has suddenly started acting more secretive, especially when it comes to his phone, messages, and where he is. It’s like his phone has become super important to him all of a sudden.
Earlier, you would see his phone lying around, but now he keeps it with him all the time and is always busy with it. This change might make you worried because it feels like he’s trying to hide something. Everyone likes their privacy, but when someone starts acting differently all of a sudden, it can be a reason to be concerned.
2. Lack of Interest in You
Have you noticed a change in his behavior recently? The man who once eagerly inquired about your day and shared a deep connection now seems distant. His lack of interest in your daily life raises concerns. It’s apparent that passion, intimacy, and romance have dwindled.
His preoccupation and dismissiveness when asked about his thoughts hint at a potential emotional detachment. This change may indicate his focus has shifted, possibly towards someone else. The dwindling effort to connect suggests an early warning sign of a growing emotional distance.
3. No future plan
If your boyfriend avoids discussing the future without a clear reason, it might raise concerns. Even simple plans for the next week become challenging topics, and he may accuse you of overthinking.
Previously open, he now changes or ignores discussions about the future. This avoidance may suggest a waning interest in the relationship or potential involvement with someone else. A noticeable shift in his enthusiasm for discussing future goals and plans could signal changing priorities, hinting at a possible decline in fondness.
4. Gets Angry Often
If he’s frequently irritated and picking fights, it might indicate an intentional or subconscious effort to sabotage the relationship, possibly due to seeking justification for an affair. His defensive reactions to questions about fidelity could suggest guilt.
Involvement with someone else might make him feel trapped, leading to fights over trivial matters as a means of venting frustration or deflecting blame. Engaging in such arguments may exhaust you emotionally. Recognizing these patterns is crucial for understanding potential relationship issues and addressing them constructively.
5. Lame Excuses that are Inconsistent
If your boyfriend’s excuses seem inconsistent and his stories keep changing, it could be a sign of cognitive dissonance—an internal conflict between conflicting thoughts. For instance, if he claimed a work meeting last week but later mentioned a night out with friends, it raises suspicions.
This inconsistency suggests he might be hiding something, possibly an affair. Cognitive dissonance often leads to evolving narratives as the mind grapples with conflicting information, resulting in unconvincing explanations. Pay attention to these discrepancies, as they may indicate underlying deception in the relationship.
6. Comparison and Criticism
When your partner’s gaze loses its sparkle and they no longer make you feel like the center of their world, it might signal attraction elsewhere. Signs include unwarranted criticism about your appearance or behavior, and creating unrealistic standards seemingly out of nowhere. A red flag emerges when he starts making comparison statements like, “Why can’t you sing like her?” or “Why did you wear this dress tonight?” These subtle jabs reveal a shift in his perceptions, indicating potential disloyalty as he unknowingly betrays his thoughts about someone else.
7. He’s Too Busy These Days
If your boyfriend starts consistently staying late at the office, cancels date nights, or forgets special occasions, it’s natural to wonder if he’s cheating or genuinely busy. Pay attention to changes in his behavior. While he might be dealing with work challenges or aiming for a promotion, it’s crucial to be observant and communicate openly to understand the reasons behind his increased busyness and ensure the relationship remains strong.
These are just a few warning signs to be vigilant about in a relationship. If you observe a combination of these behaviors, it might be time for open communication. Building trust and addressing concerns can help navigate potential challenges, fostering a healthier and more honest connection between partners.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.
