Rejection is a storm that rages within, a tempest of emotions that threatens to overwhelm and drown you in a sea of self-doubt and insecurity. It is a battle that you fight alone, with no one to shield you from the onslaught of negativity and rejection. Whether it is being rejected from a job, a relationship, or a social group, rejection can be painful.
Dealing with rejection in any form is difficult, and romantic rejection is no exception. Marriage counselor and relationship expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo share some tips to handle relationship rejection effectively:
Acknowledge Your Feelings
It is important to allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with rejection. This does not mean allowing yourself to be paralyzed by them, but giving yourself the time and space to process them is necessary for healing.
Giving yourself space to process your emotions is crucial to healing. Take a break from dating and focus on self-care. Taking a trip, engaging in hobbies, or spending time with friends are all possible ways to relax. Make sure whatever you do brings you peace and happiness.
Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and respect. Although rejection hurts, remember that no one is entitled to another person’s affection. Accept that the other person’s decision is based on their preferences and values, and that doesn’t mean you’re unlovable.
Don’t look back
Looking back on a relationship that didn’t work out can lead to feelings of regret and sadness, so it’s important to move forward. Let go of the past. Focus on the present and look ahead.
Learn and Grow from the Experience
Instead of dwelling on the rejection, try to learn from the experience. Reflect on what went wrong, and think about how you can improve yourself for future relationships. Remember that rejection is not the end, but merely a detour on the road to success. It is a reminder that you are human, and that failure is an inevitable part of the journey. And with each rejection comes the opportunity to learn and grow, to become stronger and more resilient.
Focus on your goals and passions
When you’re feeling down, it’s easy to lose sight of your goals and passions. But focusing on these things can help you feel more positive and motivated. Remind yourself of why you started and stay motivated. Take a break and refocus your energy on something you care about. Celebrate the small wins, and keep going.
By loving yourself, you can build your self-esteem, which can help you to better cope with rejection. Self-love also helps to remind you that relationships don’t define who you are and that you have the power to move on and find someone else who is more compatible.
It can be difficult to process rejection feelings without the support of family, friends, and even mental health professionals. Talking to someone about the experience can provide perspective and emotional support during a difficult time. You need people who understand and accept you for who you are and don’t judge you.
Rejection can be a hard pill to swallow, but it’s important to remember that it’s a part of life. Accept the inevitable and move on.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.