Ah, love – that intoxicating feeling of butterflies in the stomach, the thrill of discovering someone new, and the joy of falling head over heels. Yet, as the initial rush of romance fades into the background, many couples find themselves facing a new challenge: staying in love. Indeed, while falling in love may seem effortless and magical, maintaining that love over time requires dedication, effort, and a willingness to navigate the complexities of long-term relationships, says India’s top marriage counsellor and relationship expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo.
Why it is more difficult to stay in love than to fall in love?
Shivani Sadhoo describes the intricacies in detail why it is harder to stay in love than fall in love:
The Transition from Infatuation to Reality: The initial euphoria of falling in love often gives way to the complexities of everyday life. Couples move from the excitement of the honeymoon phase to facing the realities of each other’s imperfections and the challenges of cohabitation.
Nurturing Emotional Connection: Sustaining love requires ongoing effort to nurture and maintain the emotional bond between partners. Amid busy lives, couples must prioritize their relationship, fostering intimacy and understanding amidst the chaos of daily responsibilities.
Adapting to Growth and Change: Over time, individuals and relationships evolve. Couples must navigate the changes together, adapting to shifting needs, desires, and priorities. This requires open communication, flexibility, and a willingness to embrace growth both individually and as a couple.
Navigating External Pressures: External factors such as stress, financial strain, and societal expectations can strain a relationship. Couples must work as a team, supporting each other through difficult times and finding strength in their partnership amidst external challenges.
The Beauty of Long-Term Love: Despite the challenges, long-term relationships offer deep fulfillment and intimacy. Couples develop a profound understanding of each other, creating a shared history and bond that strengthens over time.
Choosing Love Every Day: Staying in love requires a daily commitment to the relationship. Couples must actively choose to prioritize each other, demonstrating love through small gestures, acts of kindness, and quality time spent together.
While the journey of staying in love may be filled with obstacles, it is also a rewarding and transformative experience. By acknowledging the challenges and committing to navigate them together, couples can build a love that grows stronger with each passing day, standing the test of time.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.
