Tips Shared by Marriage Counselor Shivani Sadhoo
Everyone dreams of a rosy happily-ever-after in their relationships. However, life is not a fairytale. All relationships go through ups and downs. It is a fact of life. You suddenly stop feeling the butterflies that you experienced at the beginning of your relationship. You feel disconnected from your partner. Are you falling out of love? Probably yes!
Falling out of love is as natural as falling into it. The so-called honeymoon phase seems to end abruptly. It is indeed a painful feeling. One feels completely lost and keeps wondering what happened to those lovey-dovey feelings, those moments of excitement and laughter that brought them together. Can those magic moments be revived? Can you fall in love with your partner all over again? “Yes, you can”, says Delhi’s eminent marriage counsellor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo.
Here’s how you can rekindle the love in your relationship:
Let’s start from the very beginning: Remembering the good old days filled with happy memories can bring back that spark in a relationship. Try to relive those moments perhaps by revisiting the place where the butterflies started or by watching a movie together just like in the olden days. Research suggests that nostalgia instills a sense of closeness between partners.
Swallow the bitter pill: To bring back those lovely moments into your life, you will have to learn to compromise, but in the right way. Both of you will have to forget your ego. ‘It is better to lose your ego to the one you love than to lose the one you love because of ego.’
Promises are not meant to be broken: Keeping promises is vital for any strong relationship. When you love someone, you would not want to hurt your beloved. Would you? So, do not break the trust of your partner by breaking promises. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. Many times, couples drift away only because of broken promises.
Make time for each other: Sometimes we get so busy with the daily hustle and bustle that we do not find time for each other. Talk to each other. Listen to each other. Look into each other’s eyes. Holding hands can make you fall in love with your partner all over again.
Variety is the spice of life: Sometimes relationships can become boring. So, break the monotony and add some variety to make your heart go pitter-patter again. Try something new like joining a pottery class or perhaps a kickboxing session that interests both of you.
The power of ‘Thank You: Make it a habit to say ‘Thank you to acknowledge the things that your partner does. A little appreciation goes a long way.
Love is a powerful emotion that needs to be nurtured with dedication and commitment.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counsellor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained on specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counsellors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practice independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.