Red Flags To Watch For
We all dream of a loving partner who listens, respects and stands by us through thick and thin. However, even in the most seemingly perfect relationships, infidelity can occur, shattering the foundation of trust. Once trust is broken, it’s natural to wonder: “Will he cheat again?”
The saying “Once a cheater, always a cheater” often comes to mind. While it isn’t always true, repeated infidelity is not uncommon, especially when the underlying issues are not addressed. Reconciliation is possible but it requires self-reflection, honesty, and a deep commitment to rebuilding trust.

Which signs indicate that a man will cheat again in a relationship?
Here are key warning signs to watch for, shared by Shivani Misri Sadhoo who is one of the best marriage counsellors and couples therapists in India, that may indicate a partner could cheat again.
Avoiding Accountability
A major red flag is a partner who refuses to take responsibility for their actions. Serial cheaters often avoid accountability, acting as though their behaviour is beyond their control. When confronted, they might blame external factors or even their partner instead of admitting fault.
This refusal to own up to their mistakes reflects immaturity and an unwillingness to address the deeper issues driving their infidelity. If he continues to deflect blame, it’s a sign he may not have learned from his mistakes and could potentially cheat again.
Lack of Genuine Remorse
A truly remorseful person will not only apologize but also take responsibility for their actions and show a willingness to make amends. If your partner simply says sorry without demonstrating genuine regret or making efforts to rebuild trust, it may indicate he isn’t truly sorry but only regrets getting caught.
This lack of real remorse often suggests a higher risk of repeated behaviour, as he may not fully understand the impact of his actions on your relationship.
Gaslighting
Gaslighting is a common manipulation tactic used by serial cheaters. It involves twisting reality and making their partner question their perceptions, often leading to confusion and self-doubt. A cheater may deny obvious facts, shift blame, or accuse their partner of being overly suspicious, making them feel guilty for problems they didn’t cause.
This psychological manipulation helps the cheater avoid accountability while keeping their actions hidden. If your partner constantly denies your concerns or makes you doubt your own judgment, it’s a serious warning sign.
Frequent Unavailability
If your partner suddenly becomes unavailable, it may indicate they are hiding something. They might stop making time for you, avoid calls, or offer vague explanations for their absence. Invitations to family gatherings or date nights might be met with excuses, and they may avoid making plans in advance. While being busy is normal, a sudden and consistent lack of availability can signal a deeper issue, especially if it leaves you feeling sidelined or disconnected.
Increased Secrecy
Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and secrecy can quickly erode it. If your partner becomes more guarded about their whereabouts, hides their phone, or becomes defensive when asked simple questions, it could be a sign of infidelity.
Unfaithful partners often take extra precautions to cover their tracks, like changing passwords or silencing their phones. If they suddenly become overly protective of their devices or start acting suspiciously, it’s a red flag that something might be wrong.
Avoidance of Proper Communication
Effective communication is key to rebuilding trust after infidelity. If your partner avoids discussing their past actions, dismisses your concerns, or becomes defensive when you bring up the topic, it can create an emotional barrier. This pattern of deflection often stems from guilt or fear of confrontation but can prevent the necessary healing process.
Without open and honest communication, it’s challenging to address the core issues that led to infidelity in the first place. If your partner constantly avoids these difficult conversations, it may indicate a lack of commitment to change.
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is challenging and requires effort from both partners. If you notice signs like avoiding accountability, lack of genuine remorse, gaslighting, frequent unavailability, increased secrecy, and poor communication, it may be an indication that your partner isn’t fully committed to change.
Trust your instincts and prioritize your emotional well-being. Being vigilant and recognizing these red flags early can help you make informed decisions about the future of your relationship.

Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship Counselor by world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute . She is trained on specialized key relationship counseling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, is also Certified for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialized training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counselors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practices independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India but also listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital – Institute of Brain & Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.