Even though a new relationship brings along plenty of beautiful aspects to look ahead to, it should be nurtured with care. A beginning of something new could invoke butterflies in your tummy but you have to follow some unsaid rules during the lovey-dovey phase in order to develop a strong relationship.
In this blog, India’s leading relationship expert and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says if you have gotten into a new relationship, then here are a few things that you should never do.
Do Not Compare
Comparing your current partner with an ex is the worst mistake you can do at the beginning of your relationship. This just not only invokes feelings of jealousy or doubt in your partner’s mind but also gives him a feeling that you still haven’t moved on. While it is good to talk about your ex or share any trauma you may be going through, comparing your current with your ex is something you should always refrain from doing.
Do Not Pretend to Like Something
Do not pretend to like something simply for the sake of it. It could be your partner’s favorite movie or beloved pet. Learn to politely say no or disagree with something you do not have a natural liking for. This will bring healthy transparency into your relationship and you would not have to pretend simply for the sake of your partner. If your partner is mature enough, he/she will automatically respect your likings and straightforwardness.
Learn to Say No
If you learn to say no to things you need or matters you do not agree with, you will certainly have a smooth relationship. This will provide clarity to your partners about your likings and opinions. On the other hand, agreeing to each thing may cause problems down the line which may have a negative impact on your relationship in the future.
While providing each one some space is a golden rule to keep the relationship healthy, ghosting could lead to quite the opposite. Ghosting is actually not communicating with your partner without any logic or reason. This will not only make your partner rethink of the relationship but also make them feel lonely. Rather than ghosting your partner, you can always ask for a quality me-time, if required. It is healthy to have some time out and introspect yourself, which at the same time is advantageous for your relationship.
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