When we love someone with all our heart, a breakup is the last thing on our mind. Saying goodbye to your beloved is not easy, especially when it is something that you are not ready for. You keep wondering: Why me? What went wrong? How did it happen to a perfect couple like us?
Well…that’s life!
No matter what the reason is, breakups in general are painful. They leave an emotional scar. India’s top relationship and marriage counselor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo, shares a few tips and tricks on how to let go of your beloved. Let’s master the art of saying hello to life once again.
So is there any way to let go of someone and move on with your life after the break-up?
1. Process Your Emotions
To begin with, get a hold of yourself first. You need to process your emotions first. Give yourself the time to heal from within, which of course won’t happen in a night. So, accept the fact that your relationship is over. But that does not mean you need to sit and cry. Instead, acknowledge the pain, but don’t let it ruin your happiness. Remember the sun rises every day, bringing new hope and opportunities. So, move on with life.
2. Do Not Contact Your Ex
If you think that blocking your ex is a smart way to let go of them, then you are not alone. Many people feel that cutting off contact on social media or phone is the easiest way to move on with life. But, what is the guarantee that you won’t cross paths with them ever again in the future? What will you do then? Will you run away or hide behind a bush? So clearly that’s not a long-term solution. While it can definitely give you some mental peace but that is just temporary. Instead, apply the no-contact rule.
Do not contact your ex at all. it may seem a bit tricky at times as you may be often reminded of your happy memories. But try to stay away from such emotional triggers. use this time in self-discovery and self-healing. In fact, you can also convey the same to your ex. Once they know that you are also trying to cope with the situation, they, too will try to follow the same. This will help avoid unnecessary confusion and prevent unintentional breaches that could compromise the healing process.
3. Pick Up A Hobby
Do something that makes you happy, keeps your mind engaged. This will help you heal faster. Reading may not have been your favourite pastime, but give it a try. Visit a bookstore. Wander through its shelves. Something or the other will surely catch your eye. Read it. Who knows you might even turn into a bibliophile! Sometimes helping the poor and needy can be extremely fulfilling. It does wonders for your soul.
After all, real happiness lies in making others happy. The smile on their faces might just be the medicine your heart needs. When you extend your hand to lift someone else, you’re also lifting a part of yourself. Do good to others and your soul will be satisfied. Slowly and gradually, you will find a new meaning to your life. This will help overcome the emotional ups and downs you are currently going through.
4. You Are Not Alone
Do not worry, for you are not alone. Your friends and family are there to help you make peace with yourself. While you may not feel like meeting anyone, not even your own sibling, they are always ready to lend you their ears. In fact, it actually helps when you can have a heart-to-heart chat with your closest friend, the one who knows you inside out. They may not have all the answers, yet their presence alone can feel like a healing balm to your hurt soul. They can empathise with you.
Talking to your loved ones can ease the emotional burden you are carrying right now. Even when the world feels like it is crumbling, a simple conversation with someone who truly cares can ground you. It reminds you that love still exists, that you still matter, and that pain — no matter how heavy — is something you don’t have to carry alone. Your healing may not be instant, but these small moments of connection slowly stitch your broken spirit back together.
5. Travel Outside Your Domain
Travelling helps. The moment you leave behind your shared space with your ex you start viewing life from a fresh perspective. As you enter new surroundings where streets appear strange and air carries a different scent you find relief from the haunting memories tied to your previous environment.
You’re forging new paths instead of following old ones. Each fresh location and unfamiliar person shows you that a world exists beyond your suffering, while healing takes place before you even realise it.
Finally…
Feel free to embrace your healing journey at your own pace. Acknowledge the pain, but don’t let it define you. With time, self-care, and support from loved ones, you’ll find your way back to joy. Remember, the best is yet to come – sometimes, moving on is the best form of self-love. Consider consulting a good counsellor if none of the above methods help.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo is an internationally recommended relationship counsellor by the world’s biggest and most trusted study and research-based foundation for couples therapy – Gottman Institute. She is trained in specialised key relationship counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed institutions. Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also certified in emotionally focused therapy, cognitive behavioural therapy, and dialectical behaviour therapy.
Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo is also a Certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialized training and experience in the field of affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values, bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) and emotional health issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood).
Currently, Shivani Misri Sadhoo is one of the top counselors with the HIGHEST Success Rate with over 17,000 happy couples and individuals (based in India and abroad), who has benefited from her therapy. Psychologist and Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo not only practices independently from her clinic in Greater Kailash, Delhi, India, but also is listed on the panel of eminent hospitals like IBS Hospital Panel – Institute of Brain and Spine, Express Clinic, Fortis (formerly) based in Delhi.
Call Counselor: +91-8860875040
Email: saarthiforlife@gmail.com
